Repressed Feelings and Disconnection: Nadine’s Story
My years as a teenager felt at times insurmountable and were filled with confusion. I lost my father at a young age and wasn’t fully able to grieve the loss. I felt an overwhelming sense of anger, sadness and at times numbness. Beneath the facade of anger hid a deep sense of hurt and fear of being misunderstood.
While disconnection and reclusion were my safe haven, they also fuelled my fear of not belonging. My family and friends felt like aliens living worlds away from mine and I could not quite grasp how to connect. In order to get a sense that I was enough, I fell into relationships that would lead me to destructive behaviours. I did not know how to feel nor did I believe that I could handle the iceberg of emotions hiding beneath the surface. I didn’t quite know how to let anyone in.
The Healing Power of Connection
My turning point came when I decided to stop dealing with this pain alone. After years of falling into the same patterns, I decided I wanted to do something different. I allowed myself to feel all that was in me at a pace that felt safe for me. I let the good, the bad and the ugly come out even if I did not trust others’ capacity (and quite frankly my own) to handle it. Then I found out that I wasn’t some faulty person but rather a human dealing with a broken heart. I got to know myself and fully accept whatever came up whenever it came up.
Through this honest process, I found the true depth of my heart. I found my deep capacity for love, my creative energy and a desire to share it with the world. I finally felt that if I allowed myself to, I could find those strings of connection.
An internal emotional map is laid out and imprinted during teenagehood. Through meaningful dialogue and engaging in meaningful relationships, like counselling, I help youth learn to tap into their inner resources, power, and gifts that come from walking through and not around their issues. I also hold compassion and understanding for parents, because it’s not easy to balance moving through your own struggles while being loving and remaining helpful towards others!
They say it takes a pack to raise a child and I do believe that. Through counselling, parents get to experience a sense that they are not alone. I believe parents and youth can experience a greater sense of connection and find greater depths together. Supported, open and honest conversations are the means to achieving this.
Heart Centered Authenticity: Nadine’s Background
I am a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor with the Association of Cooperative Counselling Therapists of Canada (#2256). I draw my skills from a Bachelor’s of Science in Psychology obtained at the University of Montreal and the transpersonal, experiential counsellor training from Clearmind International. Also, I am an avid meditator, musician, dancer and Mindful Dance Workshop facilitator. I continue my growth by being an Assistant Instructor for Clearmind International and attending many workshops pertaining to Mind-Body Health, LGBTQ, visible minorities and Women & Men issues. I have a deep desire to create a safe container for my clients. This allows them to feel heard, understood and fully accepted, helping them find their internal resources and power.